Do you ever find yourself enjoying a (good?) arguement or debate with someone? Do you like matching "wits" with someone else?
I was involved in a couple of posts on other boards lately, in regards to a couple of posts that I posted. I got, what I thought were negative responses to them, and found myself, Justifying? or trying to "come back" at them, with what amounted to nothing more, than justifying and debateing with the individuals involved.
I found some satisfaction in going back and forth with them, and tried my best not to post anything that would really offend anyone. I know in the past, I would have "laid into them" with "witty words" that would have been meant to demean or ridicule. I know that I still get sarcastic but I really believe that I participated in these threads, just to have some fun. (At others expense?) I'm not sure.
When I was in my active addiction, there was nothing I enjoyed more, than to argue. I could argue about something, even if I knew I was wrong. I think that I did this, just to show the other person they were wrong (even if they weren't, lol), or to find ways to justify my own opinions.
I know that I've changed positively in these old behaviours, but I realize that their still inside me to some extent, with my argumentive nature.
What about you all? Do you enjoy a good arguement or debate? Can it be fun, or does it end up hurting someone else, in some manner or way?
Milkman
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Hi Milkman, you have put up a post that i want to ponder - about myself too. I like to say "discussion" not argument, but then the other person might say argument - kinda depends which way you look at it. I recently read some letter i wrote over 30 yrs ago as a teen, and would have called that person writing "abrasive". Has made me take another look at me. Often whatever i said i could justify by being the truth, but when i flick the conversation around and put myself in the firing line, the truth can be aggressive. Hmmm still thinking about it. Good topic mike.
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